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The First Steps To Winning Your Ex Back

June 19, 2008 |

Right after a breakup, most heartbroken people don’t even know where to begin to get their exes back. That’s why I’m here, to help you get that start you need so that you can win him back and get your life back together.

You’re already doing well, because you’ve taken the first step: you’ve realized that this is too big for one person to figure out, and you’re seeking help. This is a great start, but all the research in the world won’t get him back, so let’s get you set up so that you can get out there and win him back.

First thing I tell everyone in your situation is: break off contact. No matter what the story, this is beneficial to you and your plans of getting him back eventually. This isn’t a goodbye forever sort of thing, it should only be for about a month, but it’s essential to maximize your chances of getting him back in the long run.

Why? Because when a couple breaks up, generally they have to be apart for the full impact of the separation to sink in. Often you’ll find that the person who initiated the breakup hadn’t really realized what it would mean to be without the other person. After a month of exposure to the loneliness and sense of something missing, he’ll be more receptive to the idea of getting back together. This term of no contact also helps in a number of other ways, such as keeping a lid on how much damage you can do to your situation with the emotional outbursts that often snap off during such a stressful time.

During this month, you have to stick to the rule. No contact means no contact. No texting, no calling, no emailing…no contact. Any lapse in this rule can shatter what you’ve been building up, and seriously hurt your chances of getting him back. I think I’ve stressed this enough…NO contact.

So what do you do during this separation? I advise a variety of things, including but not limited to:

–Rebuilding your life by doing things you enjoy with people you enjoy (friends, family, etc)

–Changing things up a little. Whether it’s joining a gym to get in shape or updating your wardrobe, a little bit of positive self-work can be extremly refreshing and make you feel great about yourself.

–Try out the dating scene a bit. You don’t have to enter into any serious relationships, but a little fun and attention can do you a lot of good. Just knowing there are people out there who find you desirable is good for you.

Don’t forget though, that it doesn’t need to be all fun and games. Stay active and you’ll heal faster, but if you really want to get your ex back you’ll need to have a plan ready for when that month is over and it’s time to pursue him again. Don’t make the crucial mistake of going into this without a strategy…’winging it’ will more likely than not have very bad results.

For a solid foundation to get your ex back and a proven plan that’s worked for hundreds, discover The Magic of Making Up. Check out the free info at http://www.magicofmakingup.com/ to decide if it’s right for you.

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